Rebound relationships shouldn’t cause us more distress. The reason it’s a rebound relationship is because it’s helping us to get over our ex. To do that, it must be a good one — a relationship that makes us feel better and happier, and not one that makes us want our ex even more.
Some experts believe rebound relationships are great to help us forget about our ex. Others, on the other hand, “dismiss their seriousness.” Thankfully, there have been studies on rebound relationships that showed the one detail that separates a healthy rebound relationship from a toxic one.
Take one journal article titled, ‘Too fast, too soon?’ which was published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. This study suggests that those who went for a rebound relationship soon after a breakup “had greater overall mental and physical health, confidence in their desirability, and resolution toward their previous relationship.” It’s not just about them, however.
The other partner also enjoys some advantages. The study suggests that the person entering a rebound relationship is more respectful toward to the new partner. However, they are also quicker to compare the new partner to the ex. This could be a good thing if you have better qualities than the ex but a bad thing if this is not the case.
There’s another article on rebound relationships, titled, "On the Rebound: Focusing on Someone New Helps Anxiously Attached Individuals Let Go of Ex-Partners," which was published in the Society for Personality and Social Psychology in 2009. This journal article suggests that rebound relationships are healthy because they help the person focus on someone new. In doing so, the pain of a breakup is felt less.
A new partner can help us to gain back our self-confidence. We can learn from how this new person deals with life and how this person behaves. It’s not about getting someone to fix us, rather than fixing ourselves, but it is about having a good example of how we can start living life again.
Of course, this only works if the new partner is better than our ex. If this is not the case, then the rebound relationship will turn toxic. More than that, it will make us think that there’s no one better than our ex.
So when you’re faced with the decision as to whether or not to go into a rebound relationship, there is an important question you must ask yourself. “Is the rebound better than your ex in any way, physically or emotionally?” It has to be a yes.
If you were dumped in your last relationship, it can be tricky to find someone better in your eyes. Still, it’s important that you do. Otherwise, you will never be able to forget about your ex and move away from that pain.
A rebound relationship is there to take you out of your comfort zone. You’ve been with your ex for a while and got used to certain things and a certain way of life. To forget the past and start fresh, you need someone who will show you new things and a different way of life.
Who knows, maybe this person will be the one to show you what you were missing with your ex. A rebound relationship may not necessarily mean a lasting one. Nevertheless, this person can open you up to new ambitions — ones you would have never considered had you been with your ex.
Believe that a rebound relationship can be healthy. But for it to be so, it has to be one that helps you to forget about your ex and make you realize that there are other things in life, so you won’t have to go back to your ex when you know it’s not a good idea. You broke up for a reason, don’t forget that.