So, he left on you read, huh? That is the absolute worst. You carry your phone everywhere you go and can’t stop obsessing over the fact that you haven’t heard from him. A few minutes pass and still...nothing.
You bring your phone to the toilet, to walk the dog and when walking over to your coworkers desk. You carry that phone everywhere. It’s now been a few hours and you are sad and mad and you just don’t understand what happened.
Then your mind starts to race. Did he lose his phone? Does he have a girlfriend and he got caught texting? Did something bad happen to him? You just wish he would write you back so you know that he is okay. You are a catch, dammit!!!!!
A few days go by and you a livid and confused and sad. But mostly livid. Why haven’t you heard from him? You didn’t even know if you liked him but your ego is bruised and you are sad that he didn’t even give you guys a chance.
And just when you are starting to feel better, you look back through your texts and you are still on read. WTF!!!!! Then there it is! DING!!!!! Your heart skips a beat. You start to sweat. He finally texted back!!!!!!
You reply, “How are you?” and suddenly you have a quick little pep in your step. You don’t even remember the fact that he left you hanging for almost a week. You send the text and the waiting game continues.
I want you to really think for a minute. I’m going to give you some tough love, because I am a girl and I’ve been left on read before. If he was really interested, he would want to hear from you. If he really wanted to get to know you, he’d be excited to exchange texts with you. Hell, he may even call you. He would not leave you hanging.
If he keeps leaving you on read, then he is not that into you. Do you want to read that sentence again? Or he has a girlfriend. If he is single and is interested in you, he wouldn’t be making you wait. So what are your options in this dating game?
You can confront them. You can text them and say something like, “Hey! Are you there? Look, if you’re not interested it’s cool. Just be honest.” If you don’t want to confront them, you could play the game right back and make them wait and leave them on read too. This will either teach them a lesson on how shitty it feels to be left on read or you’ll never hear from them again. It depends on your textpectations.
You can respond after making them wait a while and see how it goes but the bottom line is this. You want to be with someone who is just as invested in the conversation as you are. Plain and simple. If you keep reaching out and they aren’t giving much back, it’s time to take it as a hint and move on. Don’t waste your time, girl! Let his sorry ass go!