Kids are asked to grow up too quickly. It's a shame, since being a kid was amazing and growing up is one of the worst things that happens to you. Yet, kids are still pressured to think of what they want to be when they get older. Many choose jobs such as firefighter or garbage collector. Of course, they don't realize yet how underpaid some of those professions are.
Then, there were always those kids who said something like, "I want to be a dog when I grow up." It's an understandable wish, especially if you like dogs more than people. However, most children grow out of this seemingly silly desire.
Part of being married is sharing your life with someone else. This also included sharing all your secrets. Before their wedding, Peters informed Watson of something that ultimately lead to the couple splitting up romantically.
Peters desired to live his life as a dog. He had this desire for as long as he could remember and never grew out of it. The idea of pup play isn't his alone. It grew out of the BDSM community and has spread since the internet has made it easier to reach like-minded individuals. But for Peters, this desire isn't sexual in nature.
Peters said his breakup with Watson was a watershed moment for him. He considers Spot his true identity, and used their split as a means to further pursue his desires.
"I wouldn’t say it was the catalyst, but it was the straw that broke the camel’s back. Then I had this moment of panic because a puppy without a collar is a stray; they don’t have anyone to look after them."
Peters often sleeps in a crate and even relieves himself on a training pad. After Watson dumped him, he entered a relationship with a man who acts as his handler.
"I started chatting to Colin online and he offered to look after me. It’s a sad thing to say, but there’s not love from the heart in me for Colin – but what I have got is someone who is there for me and I’m happy with that."
A documentary was released in Britain that took a sympathetic and educational look at men like Peters. The Secret Life Of Human Pups explored the culture and history of pup play. Peters was involved in the project, and as luck would have it, his ex-fiancée Watson was involved in it as well.
Watson and Peters split in 2008. The documentary was recently released and helped Watson understand the man she once thought she'd spend her life with. Enough time had passed, and she decided she could have a place for him in her life.
Though the two are no longer romantically linked, they consider themselves to be closer than ever. They went on Good Morning in the U.K. to explain their complicated relationship. The two are not and will never again be lovers, but they are happy to be friends.
By all accounts, Peters is happier than ever. Previously, he worked as a a sound and lighting technician for a local theater company in his hometown. Over the past 10 years, he's spent £4,000 on his puppy gear, and finds being in it a form of relaxation and relief.
Another human pup, David, tried to further explain the rationale behind this lifestyle:
"It’s an instinctive, emotional space. But within every puppy is a person. This is part of my identity, but it’s only part. I’m also a vegetarian, play the piano; I have a parrot. I was planting tomatoes on my allotment this morning. I can go months without going into pup space."
While this may be off-putting to many, it's important to remember that as long as they're not hurting anyone, others privacy and lifestyle should be respected. As Tom puts it,
"It feels like you can be gay, straight, bisexual, trans and be accepted. All I want is for the pup community to be accepted in the same way. We’re not trying to cause grief to the public, or cause grief to relationships. We’re just the same as any other person on the street."