Arguments have their advantages because you get to let out whatever is bugging you. But once the argument is over, you should feel stronger, not weaker, as a couple. If you’re fighting way too much and more than usual, figure out what the problem is.
Even worse than constant arguing is indifference. When you or your partner are at that stage where you don’t care where they go or what they say, then something’s not right. Caring about what the other one says and does is part of a relationship.
Unless one of you is planning an epic surprise birthday party, few things should remain a secret between you too. If you’re texting others behind your partner’s back or lying to your partner about what you’ve been up to, then this is another alarming sign.
Sometimes we know we’re heading towards a breakup even though we haven’t consciously admitted it to ourselves yet. There are times when we get that bad feeling that something is not right. Listen to that feeling and act upon it, so you don’t keep distracting yourself with things that don’t really matter.
Tying up with the former point, sometimes you can just feel it in your gut that something is not right. Maybe you can intuit that your partner doesn’t love you anymore or worse, loves someone else. We know more than we think we do but we have to stop and really listen.
Hanging out with friends is healthy, even when you’re in a relationship. However, when spending time with your friends sounds more appealing than time spent with your partner, then something is not right. The latter should be your favorite person in the world to spend time with.
…Or texting, or saying anything other than what’s necessary. It’s natural that with time, we may not need to talk as much with our partners. But, when a whole day has gone by and you still haven’t texted or said a word to your partner when you clearly had time, then you’ve got another sign.
When taking extra shifts at work or staying late at the office to work, rather than spending an evening with your partner sounds more appealing, then you are raising serious alarm bells. Taking a break from your partner is one thing but doing it often is quite another. When you’d rather be anywhere else but home with the person you’re supposed to love, then you need to start questioning your behavior.
This goes beyond saying good morning or texting during the day. It’s when you start considering making life altering decisions without consulting your partner. If you love someone, then you would communicate with your significant other to see how such a decision will affect your future together.
An obvious one and yet, not so obvious too. Things can get stagnant in the bedroom, especially when a couple has been together for a long time. Not having sex for a while is not alarming in itself but these dry periods shouldn’t be a permanent thing.
Much like the previous point, things can get boring and normal after a while. So, yes, boredom can easily be felt by a couple who have been together for a while. However, there are those who chose to beat the boredom by finding each other again and those who simply let it kill their relationship.
After a while together, we may not expect the constant kisses and confessions of love. But, you should be able to remember the last time you kissed your partner and the last time you were affectionate with one another outside of the bedroom. These things keep the romance alive.
People who are happily coupled will tell you that there have been times when they saw someone who made their heart skip a beat — someone who was not their partner. It’s normal because we’re human. But, when you start purposely looking for someone else, then you are looking for trouble and clearly, looking for someone other than your partner.