At one point, Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise were married. Yes, it's true. Does this make your jaw drop? Then you are probably born after the year 2000, and just shut up because you're making me feel old. This relationship was a real thing, and today it's hard to wrap our heads around the fact that it was once reality. Kidman and Cruise were two of the hottest young stars in the world, and together, they were an A-list power couple that was the paparazzi's wet dream. The marriage did not last...SPOILER ALERT! But do you know exactly what went down between this couple during their marriage and during their divorce?
We're willing to bet you don't know all the strange and nitty-gritty details, so you're gonna want to stick around. We've got some juicy tidbits for ya.
Tom Cruise And Nicole Kidman Were Practically Babies When They Met!
Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman met in 1990 on the set of Days of Thunder and were married less than a year later. These two crazy kids certainly didn't waste any time tying the knot, because they were madly in love. Kidman was only 23 at the time and Cruise was 28.
"I got married really fast and really young," Kidman told Who magazine. "But I don't regret that because it got me Bella and Connor, and I did have a fantastic marriage for a long period."
Just a few short years after they married, they decided to adopt two children together. They adopted their daughter, Bella, in 1992 and their son, Connor, in 1994. Kidman was only 25 years old, newly married and had two small kids. That is certainly a lot for any woman to handle. But let's also not forget that Kidman was also a rising star, and she had a burgeoning career to manage as well.
“I was a child, really, when I got married. And I needed to grow up," she admitted.
The rumor is that Kidman's dismissal of Scientology was the main factor in the couple’s divorce. Kidman has always taken the high road when it comes to the rumors (or she is terrified because Scientologists are ruthless).
In an interview with The Hollywood Reporter, Kidman said, “I’ve chosen not to speak publicly about Scientology. I have two children who are Scientologists and I utterly respect their beliefs.”
The rumors claim that because Kidman rejected the religion, Bella and her brother Connor began referring to her as a “suppressive person,” which is a term used in Scientology to refer to people who don’t believe in the religion. Scientologists are always supposed to avoid "suppressive people." Supposedly, this is why Cruise got full custody.
In more recent interviews, Bella and Connor claim that their family is closer than ever and that none of the rumors are true. In January 2016, there were reports that Kidman and Cruise reunited after 15 years apart. Supposedly, they met for dinner in London to discuss their daughter, Bella, who was rumored to be pregnant. Cruise contacted Kidman and she met with him in hopes of reconnecting with the family.
If it wasn’t Scientology that split up the Hollywood couple, what really happened? In an interview in Harper’s Bazaar in 2012, Kidman said she never truly felt comfortable during her relationship with Cruise.
“In those early years, it was like, ‘I’m here and I’m clutching onto your arm, and it all feels a little overwhelming and really strange...' I was shy. Deeply shy. I didn’t feel comfortable at all. But I felt very comfortable at home,” said Kidman.
Reportedly, their marriage struggled after their 1999 film, Eyes Wide Shut, did not do well at the box office. Another rumor as to why their marriage didn’t last was because Kidman could not conceive. Sources say she became pregnant and then lost the baby in the few months before they split.
According to court documents, Kidman claims that Cruise left her without any warning and refused to discuss the problems in their marriage or go through any counseling. Within 24 hours of telling her that he was leaving her, his publicists had announced the split as an "amicable separation" and blamed the pressures of work.
During the Women In the World Summit at Cadogan Hall in London in 2015 year, Kidman said that she felt the “loneliest” she had ever been following her 2001 split from Cruise. Her career was better than ever, but she spent 2001 "running away from life."
When they were together, she was always in his shadow. But after their split, her career skyrocketed. The more success she had in her career, the more depressed she became, but in the end, her career pulled her out of it.
“I wasn’t able to handle the reality of my life and as an actor, you have this wonderful thing where you can go and get lost in somebody else’s life and become somebody else for a period of time. And when I look back on it, I really see that. Out of that came work that sort of was applauded and so that was an interesting thing for me…I embraced my own life, which took a number of years...That culminated in winning an Oscar and that caused an epiphany — this is not the answer. I was sitting in the Beverly Hills Hotel with a gold statue and I was the loneliest I'd ever been. I was jolted out of the idea that ‘this is gonna heal me.’”
Looking back, she describes her marriage with Cruise like living in a bubble due to their unbelievable fame.
In an interview with Vanity Fair, she said, “There is something about that sort of existence that, if you really focus on each other and you’re in that bubble, it’s very intoxicating, because it’s just the two of you...And there is only one other person that’s going through it. So it brings you very close, and it’s deeply romantic. I’m sure Brad [Pitt] and Angelina [Jolie] have that — because there’s nobody else that understands it except that person who’s sleeping right next to you.”
You’ll never hear him talking about his personal life in the press, and she doesn’t like talking about her split with Cruise either. Now happily married to fellow Aussie Keith Urban, Kidman explained, "Out of respect for Keith I tend not to discuss [Tom] now," but she did say one of the biggest lessons she took away from time with Tom was, "be the best you can be, not the worst, and think of the children."
Can we just say that Nicole Kidman is a class act and so, so, so talented. We're happy she's killing it this awards' season thanks to her role in Big Little Lies, and we love how empowering her speeches have been. She's the type of role model I would want my kids to have.
As a sort of a side note, we'd also like to talk about how Tom Cruise is 5'7" and Nicole Kidman is 5'11". We're not saying this is a grounds for a break-up, obviously, but maybe they had trouble getting along because they could never agree what the weather was like down there. Ha, ha, sorry, that's terrible. Moving right along.
Alright, alright, we're going to bring it up again, sort of. But this time with Katie Holmes. Apparently, Tom has a thing for taller women. Katie Holmes is 5'9", and women like to wear heels, so she too towered over him. And it turns out she, too, didn't get along too well with some of the rules of Scientology.
Tom and Katie were married for six years, but split up in 2012. According to Katie, the Church of Scientology imposed some rules on her during their marriage. Such as a silent childbirth. Yeah, you know that extremely painful thing that happens? Scientologists believe that women should avoid screaming during childbirth.
When Katie and Tom divorced, Katie got full custody of Suri. One of the reasons that she left the marriage was because she was afraid of losing her daughter to the church, much like what happened with Nicole Kidman. Part of the terms of separation, according to another rule, was that Katie was not allowed to publicly date for five years after the divorce. So she did indeed wait that long after going public with Jamie Foxx.
You might have thought that was all, but it's not. Tom Cruise had yet another marriage before either Kidman or Holmes. He was also married to Mimi Rogers when he was 24-years-old, back in 1987. Rogers was 30-years-old at the time.
She took him under her wing,” said Wensley Clarkson, the author of Tom Cruise Unauthorized. At the time, Rogers was a practicing Scientologist, but is no longer practicing today. Essentially, she was the one who introduced him to Scientology. She had previously been married to Jim Rogers, a high profile member of the church.
They were never married, but it's also worth a mention that Cruise had a brief fling with Cher. The two met when Cher was 39-years-old and Cruise was 23. Cher once told Oprah, "I was crazy about him." Apparently the two were forced to break up because of their busy filming schedules. We wonder how Cher would have felt about Scientology.
Tom Cruise does indeed have a very complicated dating history, and he chose to make it more complicated by going out with someone who basically had his same last name. Kidding, but not about going out with Cruz. The couple dated for three years after meeting in 2001 on the set of Vanilla Sky. The couple's relationship reportedly "ran its course," and the breakup had nothing to do with Scientology. But, if we're going to give anyone any advice, it appears that if you're going to date, you should probably either both be Scientologists, or both not be Scientologists. Just some food for thought.