Anxiety is the most common form of mental illness in the United States. It is estimated that 10 percent of teenagers and 40 percent of adults suffer from some sort of anxiety disorder. Variations of anxiety include generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety, panic disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, agoraphobia, phobias and obsessive-compulsive disorder.
If you have a loved one that suffers from anxiety, it is important to be supportive. You may think that they are overreacting or they are acting "crazy" when they are feeling anxious, but deep down they are struggling. It is a disease.
Callie Amelia Theodore is a young person living with anxiety. In April she posted on Facebook opening up about her anxiety. She revealed how it manifests and how it affects her relationship with her boyfriend Chris.
In the post she starts with a quote from Thought Catalog. “Someone with anxiety is inclined to assume everyone is going to leave. The truth is they battle something they can’t control and there is a sense of insecurity within themselves when it comes to relationships. They know it’s difficult and they don’t want to burden you with their irrational thoughts and worries. So instead, they try to push you away before you get the chance to leave yourself."
In the post, she opens up about her insecurities in her current relationship with Chris. She writes about how she is always in her head about everything. She admits that she tends to be over sensitive and that she sometimes needs constant reassurance.
This may seem like a lot to ask your partner to deal with. And for some it very well may be. Some might think that a person with these issues is dramatic or exhausting and just throw in the towel before giving them a chance.
The text conversation between the two may seem simple, but his reassurance is exactly what she needed. He doesn’t make her think she is over reacting or being needy. He loves and gives her the support she needs. Plain and simple.
Look, it’s not easy dating someone who suffers from anxiety. But it looks like Chris is exactly what Callie needs and he is exactly what she was looking for.
"Someone who will assure of you the little things. Someone who doesn't tell you that you're overreacting. Someone that will rock you on the floor in the dead middle of an anxiety attack. Find someone that no matter how hard you push them, they do not leave."
She speaks to others who may also suffer from anxiety and gives them hope.
“There are people out there like that. People that calm you and bring you a sense of security- that will be stronger than any dose of medication that can be prescribed. You may have anxiety, but anxiety doesn't have you.”
She ends her post with a YouTube link for a video from her boyfriend Chris. In the video, he opens up about his own person struggle with depression. See, deep down everyone has their demons. Nobody is perfect.
So far, Callie's post has over 78,000 reactions and more than 173,000 shares. People have commented praising Chris and doting on their relationship. Many others tagged their significant others who help get them through their tough times.
"It's okay not to be okay, and a big part of that is having a strong team around you."
This is the key to happiness. It is important to have a support system around you to help you through the bad times and to help you celebrate the good times. Here are some tips if you suffer from anxiety. And please don't ever be afraid to ask for help.