It seems like there's more dating trends than there are dates. Eskimos have over 50 words for snow. Millennials have over 50 words for ghosting. Unfortunately, we have yet to create a word for "loving, healthy and normal dating."
Ghosting is so prevalent in today's dating landscape, it's almost to be expected that the person you're seeing is going to be hot for a while, then drop you. Because that's what you do with hot things. You drop them. Being ghosted is bad enough, but Submarining gets worse.
With submarining, the person un-ghosts you. They come back into your life as mysteriously as they left it, offering no explanation for why they were gone. They're un-dumping you, except they didn't technically dump you in the first place.
Submarining is kind of like zombieing - that dating trend where the other person ghosts you, but then comes back into your life, like they're refusing to die. But submarining is different. Submarining is worse. With submarining they offer no explanation for why they were gone. It's as if they weren't even gone at all.
Did homeboy take you out to see the first Fifty Shades of Grey, then suddenly stop texting after? Did he suddenly start texting you when Fifty Shades Darker came out asking if you want to see it as if nothing happened in between? That's submarining. That thirsty boy is coming up for air.
And why aren't they offering any explanation for their absence? The only acceptable reason is if they fell into a three-month coma. They're picking up where they left off because they spent that entire gap literally unconscious. If you confront them on their submarining and they give you any explanation other than that, don't take them back.
It's like they don't even care that you were crying an ocean's worth of tears over their absence. Or that you texted them, "Where are you?????" a thousand times like a psychopath. There's no thought as to how you're feeling. There's no explanation as to why they left. There's not even a, "Really? You texted me THIS many times?"