Finding the right one is hard. Everyone is out there looking for the right person to spend the rest of their life with - that perfect partner that you can stick with through thick and thin. To some degree, finding your soulmate seems like a numbers game. It seems like you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the one person that you've been looking for your entire life. But there's more to it than looking in every nook and cranny in search of your soulmate.
While it feels like we're destined for one and one person only, the truth is there could be lots of ones. Yes, you could even have three or four ones. Every person fulfills different needs, and one person could be Mr. or Ms. Right for one phase in your life, and Mr. or Ms. Wrong for another phase in your life. It all depends on who are you right now and who the other person is right now.
That said, there are specific criteria that let you know when you've found the person you should spend the rest of your life with. You don't need to blindly wonder if the person you're with is worth it for the long haul. There are questions you should ask yourself before going all in, and when you've found the answers, you'll know if the person is one of your ones.
You might feel like you're experiencing one of the great loves of all time. You've never felt this way before. Love is the best! But before you declare your current bae as your one and only soulmate for the rest of eternity, ask yourself how long you've been together. You could still be in the honeymoon phase and riding high on the initial stages of infatuation. But if you still feel that way even if you've been with the same person for years, then it's probably the real deal.
Your significant other should also do double duty as the president of your official fan club. Do they encourage your goals? Do they tell you to follow your dreams? Or do they tell you that your dreams are dumb? The person that you're meant to be with will love you for who you are and what you want to accomplish in life.
Pro tip: The person you're meant to be with isn't someone who's super hot, but will go around kicking orphans just for the fun of it. If you're trying to figure out if someone is "the One" or not, ask yourself what type of person are they? Trust that the person that you're meant for is a good person, and not someone who's just a jerk for no reason.
Where are you in your life? Are you ready to have the love of your life in your life with you? Or do you need to do some work on yourself before you can make a relationship with another person work? Sometimes Mr. or Ms. Right could come into your life at the wrong time. You need to ask yourself if this person is actually Mr. or Mr. Not Right Now But Maybe Later?
8. Are Your Family And Friends Supportive Of The Relationship?
Sometimes another person might be able to see something you don't. If your friends and family all hate the person you're with, you might need to take a moment and figure out why. Sure, sometimes people are jealous. Sure, sometimes people don't see the same side of a person as you do. But if the people who have your best interest at heart are worried about you, then you need to examine your relationship.
Does the other person make you happy for no reason? When you spend time together, does it feel like you could stay in their arms forever? When you're with the right person, you should feel like you've come home. Granted, nothing in this world is perfect, and you might have an occasional tiff every now and then, but overall, things should be serene.
Do you and your significant other want the same things out of life? Are you traveling in the same direction? It's important to find someone who not only is supportive of your goals, but can help you achieve them. You should be on the same page as the other person, not reading different books!
Does the other person make your pulse race every time you see them? While you shouldn't pick your partner based off of superficial reasons, it's important to find someone that you feel passionate about - both in body and soul. Looks aren't everything, but they sure do count for something!
Do you come from a similar background? Did you have a similar upbringing? Do you share the same views? You and your partner should have a similar outlook on life. Because how you view life effects how you live it, and who you should be living it with.
It's nice when your partner can also be your playmate. When you spend the rest of your life with someone, do you really want it to be a boring life? Do you want to resign yourself to a life of just sitting in chairs, eating bland food, and discussing the wallpaper? Or do you want to run wild with someone, exploring all four corners of the Earth?
Knowing what to look for in a person can help you be sure that you know when you've found the right person. If you're not sure that you should be spending the rest of your life with this person, then keep looking! The right person for you is out there! But if you do feel like you've found the right person, hold on to them and never let them go!