Getting cheated on is the worst. It doesn’t matter if you guys have been fighting or going through a rough patch. Cheating is still not okay if you’ve been growing apart or if you are doing long distance. Whatever the excuse may be, cheating is never okay.
And if you’ve ever been cheated on, you know that it sticks with you. It’s hard to get over it once someone has betrayed you like that. So, is your partner acting weird? Here are things you should ask yourself if you think you are being cheated on.
Does it seem like they are always focused on something else when you are together? When you guys talk, are they listening or is their mind somewhere else? If you feel like they are mentally out of it, this is a sign that your partner may be cheating.
And when you are having a heart-to-heart, do they seem to be detached from your issues? Does it seem like they don’t want to hear it? If they are cheating, they may not be interested in your problems or emotions anymore. If they can’t be bothered to deal with your life than they aren’t worth it anyway.
Does it seem like all of a sudden, they are spending big chunks of time doing something else? Do they go through periods where they are completely unavailable? We live in a world where we carry our phones with us, so unless they are hiding something, they should be available to check in here and there.
If they are constantly telling you that you are overreacting or that you are being crazy, you may be onto something. If they tell you that you are being unreasonable and put all the blame on you, this is a tactic to take the heat off of themselves. Don't buy into it.
7. Have They Mentioned Someone’s Name A Lot Recently?
Although it seems like a stupid move on their part, if they keep mentioning someone else’s name all of a sudden, beware. They may be trying to make it seem like their relationship with this person, whether it’s a new friend, a coworker or colleague, is less serious if they bring them up often. If you keep hearing about someone else, I would ask some questions and try to get to the bottom of it.
Have you noticed that they have put a password on the phone screen or changed a computer password? If they seem to need privacy overnight this is a red flag. Tell them you are uncomfortable with the new change and see how the act before you try to snoop and find out what is actually going on.
If they start working out, shopping for a new wardrobe and wearing cologne or perfume, your relationship may be on the outs. If they start a new habit or lifestyle change without talking to you about it first, I would be suspicious. Sometimes when someone is cheating, they will go out of their way to better themselves to impress the other person.
Sure, your sex life has its up and downs when you are with someone for a while. But if there seems to be a drastic drop off in their sex drive, it’s time to do some detective work. They may not want to have sex with you because they are having sex with someone else.
In the end, you should always trust your gut. Relationships should be built on trust and if something feels off, you should listen. You know when someone is acting shady, it’s just up to you to accept it and do something about it.
If your inner voice is telling you to run, think things through and talk to them before you just bolt. Maybe your partner is going through some big life changes. They may not be ready to discuss them with you and it may just seem like they are detached and being shady.
And if you find that they are actually cheating, move on and pat yourself on the back for doing so. It’s hard to walk away from something, but in the end you are so much better off. And good luck to them. Karma will take care of everything in the end. Just remember, you only deserve the best of the best!