You may want your significant other in the room with you, but guess what? That may be annoying your doctor.
According to a doctor in Texas that goes by Obygynkenobie, gynos can’t stand it “when men come into the exam room with their wives/girlfriends, etc., proceed to speak for them the entire visit, ask to ‘look in there’ when you are doing the pelvic, and then finally, when you have your hand on the door, reveal that the ‘real’ reason they came was because he thought there was something ‘wrong with her’ because she doesn’t want sex as much as (the guy) does. Gee, I just can’t imagine why she isn’t all over you, buddy. Nice.”
We wouldn’t want that kind of dude in our exam room either, or in our lives. Ladies leave your man at home.
3. When Patients Cancel Their Appointment Because Of Their Period
You may not know this, but having your period doesn’t mean that you have to cancel your appointment last minute.
Reddit user npatchett is primary care doctor that performs paps. According to npatchett it “doesn’t matter if you are on your period. just give a brief heads up to the doctor, but don’t be self conscious… Being on your period slightly decreases the chances that the sample will be satisfactory for analysis, but it is usually fine. I have never had the pathologist reject a sample and I’ve done over a dozen paps for women on their periods.”
You can call ahead and give a heads up and let the office decide if you should cancel or not.
4. When Patients Don't Get Screened For Cervical Cancer
No one likes the feeling of scraping and prodding down there, but keeping up with your exams can save your life.
Your doctor knows when you’ve been neglecting to take care of yourself: “We all know of patients who waited too long to get help for red-flag symptoms — for example, foul-smelling discharge — and wound up diagnosed with stage IV cervical cancer,” says Battaglino.
“Current guidelines recommend that women with an average risk for cervical cancer get screened every three years when in their 20s; those aged 30 through 65 should get Pap smears every three years or a combination of Pap and HPV test every five years.”
When your sex drive is low, everyone wants a quick fix and they want it now. But most of the time, that isn’t the answer:
“It’s not related to hormones; it’s generally related to emotional issues,” says Cindy Basinski, MD, an ob-gyn in Indiana. “Maybe you just had children and you’re exhausted; or maybe you and your spouse are having issues with the relationship, and you feel like he’s not paying enough attention to you.”
The exception to this rule is when a woman is going through menopause.
Look, you should go ahead and read the mommy blogs, but should also still be open to hearing what your doctor has to say.
“I love mothers and mothers-to-be who take an active part in researching their healthcare,” says Reddit user OB-GYN. “These mothers are engaged and healthy and motivated to be good parents. But the minority who do that research, and are unable to make good judgments on what is and isn’t a proper source for healthcare advice, is easily the population that is most annoying to deal with. It’s like arguing about religion. Some hippie blog said it, so it must be true, and no amount of medical research can convince them otherwise. Again, this behavior describes a small number of women, but they command a disproportionate amount of my energy.”
Just make sure to ask your doctor as well, and then you can form your own opinion! It’s also essential to get a second opinion if you ever have any doubts at all.
Just remember that you are completely in control when you pick your gynecologist. Your body, your choice, remember?
If a male makes you uncomfortable, it is very important that you request a female doctor.
“About 1/3 of women are uncomfortable with male doctors doing the exam,” reveals npatchett. “An unknown percentage of these uncomfortable patients are presumably survivors of sexual violence, in which case discomfort is entirely understandable and psychologically natural. If that is the case, there is no shame in saying ‘I have been a victim of sexual violence in the past and would be more comfortable with a woman doctor; it is nothing personal.’ If you are open about your needs, I will work effusively to accommodate you, but if you just act awkward I won’t necessarily identify the issue quickly.”
10. When Patients Don't Disclose Medications They Are Taking
When you gyn asks you what medications you have been taking, they aren’t asking you for fun.
You must tell your doctor everything, even what natural supplements you are taking:
“You may not think your other medications matter to your ob-gyn—after all, you’re just going in for a Pap smear or to renew a birth control prescription. But your doctor needs to hear it, because both drugs AND natural supplements could affect your care. For example, if she knows you take a medication for blood pressure, or an acne drug with high risks of birth defects, that could affect what type of birth control they recommend,” explains ReadersDigest.
Please don’t forget that you are going to the doctor to get checked out. You must show them the good, the bad and the ugly or what is the point?
“Our responsibility is to help our patients make good health care choices for themselves. Some problems can feel embarrassing, but they are problems we see every day,” says Dana Jacoby, MD, an ob-gyn in New Jersey.
Talking about that thing you are embarrassed of could save your life.
If your birth control is making you feel crazy, it’s best to try to stick to it or switch to another pill before you just quit cold turkey:
“All forms of birth control have side effects, as does no birth control — the side effect of that is pregnancy!” says Dr. Pamela Berens, a McGovern Medical School at UTHealth in Houston professor in obstetrics and gynecology.
Sometimes it is trial and error to find the birth control that is right for you so before you quit, try another pill. “If we could tell which was best for you by looking at you, that’d be great, but we need to give it a fair trial,” Dr. Berens says. “You need at least three months to get used to it.”
We also know that we can let our pubic hair ride! Wooooo! We know not to bring our partner into the room and we should dump them if they are a jerk.
We now know we need to be on our best behavior and that we shouldn’t be self-conscious.
Remember that they are looking at vaginas all day, so anything you are bringing to the table is no biggie. And next time you feel embarrassed, remember that your vagina is just a number to them. Sorry vag, but it’s true.