Believe it or not, your body language can make or break you. You could be giving a sales pitch with utter confidence, but your body could be telling your audience something else. If you don't feel confident, a nervous foot or bad posture could give you away. But fortunately, you can pay attention to the way you're holding yourself and make yourself come off as confident as you've always wanted to seem.
You only get once chance to make a good first impression. We haven't invented time travel yet. You can't go back and undo your mistakes. It's better to not make them in the first place. Read on for some body language tips that will make you appear more confidant.
Making sure your hands are visible is a way of showing that you have nothing in hide. Whether your negotiating, speaking in public or just at a meeting, when your hands are in view, the other person will feel more confident in what you are saying. So put your hands on the table and show off that manicure!
Bad posture is, well, bad. Not only can it jack up your back, it makes it seem like you don't have confidence in yourself. How you carry yourself is important, so carry yourself like you believe in you. Because if you don't believe in yourself, who will?
There's nothing worse than a handshake that feels like a dead fish. When you shake hands with someone, you don't need to crush their wrist with your awesome Hulk-like strength, but it should be firm. It sends the message that you're present and interested in meeting them.
When someone doesn't look you in the eye, it makes you feel like they're lying or nervous. They've definitely got something to hide - even if it's just their eye color. Keep eye contact with the person you're talking to. Just don't go crazy with it, because you'll look, well, crazy.
Put your best foot forward with a strong, confident strut. Walking well is part of how you carry yourself, and just as important as good posture. If you walk with confidence, your colleagues will have more confidence in you.
Don't be afraid to be a copycat. Mirroring someone else's body posture and actions will put you in good report with the other person. It's the difference between saying, "I agree with you" and showing them, "I agree with you." And we all know that you should show, not tell!
Flash a bit of those pearly whites and you'll seem more trustworthy to your colleagues. Smiling also can make you feel more relaxed and less stressed. Plus, putting on a big smile when you're down and out can actually make you feel happy. So why wouldn't you smile?
Standing with your hands on your hips, like Wonder Woman, can actually lower your stress. Plus this posture opens up your body and allows you to take up more space, which in turn can make you feel more confident and powerful. Standing like this for two minutes can do wonders.
When people feel confident, they tend to "steeple" their hands. This is when the fingertips touch, but the palms are apart. Steepling can project sincerity. You know how the old phrase goes. "Here is the church, here are the people..."
Fidgeting can signal that you feel nervous or anxious. Even if you put on your best poker face, shaking your foot or biting your nails can give away how you really feel if you're nervous. Touching your face and neck can also signal that you feel uncomfortable, so avoid doing that, too.
Pay attention to your arms and legs. When you cross your arms, it tells other people that you feel defensive or self-protected. When you cross your legs away from another person, it can suggest that you don't like them. While you might feel more comfortable this way, you could be shutting out the other person!
Having killer confidence can start with confident body language. Hold yourself well, and you're more likely to do well. Your body language speaks volumes! Get out there and be the confident person you know you are.