You are dating someone and it’s starts off pretty hot and heavy. You guys are texting all day, making plans and truly enjoying one another. Then all of a sudden, poof! It feels different. He is being distant, he isn’t making plans and he is less available and seems way less interested. What happened? Did you do something wrong? You can go over it in your head a million times over and you still may not be able to figure it out. Do you want a little help? Here are nine reasons why men lose interest in a relationship.
Are you always on your phone? When you are with your man you shouldn’t be glued to your phone. Have good conversation and get to know each other instead. How can he really get to know you if your head is in your phone all day. Stop seeing how many likes you got on your last selfie and start paying attention to what he is saying to you. He may be getting sick and tired of your affair with your phone.
Are you constantly putting yourself out there on social media? That is fine. Do whatever you want, but if all he sees is you posting sexy selfies and all the comments from guys drooling all over you, it’s not going to make him feel that great. Remember that he is looking at your social media too, so please make sure that what you post is stuff that you wouldn’t mind seeing on his social media accounts.
If you flake on him too many times, how is he supposed to know that you are truly interested? He is going to take it as a hint that you are not into it, even if you are! Make sure he knows that he is a priority or he is going to want to get out of the relationship.
He wants to know that you are proud to call him your boyfriend. If he feels like you aren’t including him in your plans, what is he supposed to think? If you are avoiding introducing him to friends or your family as your man he is going to take it as a hint and walk away.
Sometimes, when you really get to know someone, you get a clearer picture of who they are. You guys may find that you may not be a match and he may be trying to pull away because of it. You can be crazy about someone, but if you aren’t looking for the same things, in the end it will never work out anyway.
You can’t make it work with a guy who is afraid of commitment. The closer you get, the more afraid they will get and no matter how amazing you or your relationship is, they will start to pull away. If he doesn’t want a relationship, this has nothing to do with you and there is nothing you can do to change it.
But maybe you just came on too strong and you need to learn to take it slow? Some guys aren’t ready to talk about having babies and getting married after just a few weeks of dating. Try not to scare them off and really get to know them before you go all in. Sometimes it’s best to take it slow. What’s the rush!?
Did you do something to hurt his feelings? Maybe you weren’t there for him when he needed you? Maybe you ignored him because you felt like you were being ignored? Men aren’t perfect and believe it or not, they have feelings too. If you feel him pulling away, his feelings may be hurt. Talk to him before the relationship goes south. Communication is key if you want to make it work!
If he met someone else, then there is nothing you can do. The situation is clear. You should be with someone who knows how amazing you are. If you feel him pulling away, ask him why. If you feel like he has met someone new, it's time for you to move on.
So, there you have it. There are many different reasons why he may be losing interest. It could be something you did, and it very well may have nothing to do with you. Before you spiral, ask yourself what you think went wrong and talk to him about. Be honest and open, and if he can’t be that with you, then it wasn’t meant to be to begin with.