You're sure your partner is cheating. Your partner feels distant. Your partner is always coming home late. All the signs point to an affair. But before you call your partner out for cheating, know that there are other reasons that might make you feel like your partner is cheating besides your partner cheating. Sometimes that gut feeling can lead you astray. Before you call your partner out, take a deep breath and ask yourself if it's another factor.
Jealousy can stem from insecurity in the relationship. If you worry that your partner really loves you, you might start feeling like your partner is looking for love outside of the relationship, even if they're not. The little green monster called jealousy is really just the offspring of the monster of insecurity.
Confidence in yourself and your relationship is important. If you're feeling insecure about your partner's commitment, check in with them. You can always talk to the other person about how you're feeling in the moment. You might find that reassurance that you're looking for!
There are many studies on why people cheat that cite lack of sex as a reason. So if you're sex life is lacking, naturally it can lead to the feeling that your partner is seeking sex somewhere else. Some pretty ugly worries could crop up if your relationship burned hot in the beginning but has cooled down. Do you not excite that person in the same way you used to?
5. Lack Of Sex Doesn't Mean Lack Of Sexual Interest
It's normal for sex to fade as relationships progress, so if you're not having as much sex as you were in the beginning of the relationship, it's nothing to worry about. However, if your lack of physical intimacy is bothering you, let your partner know. And don't be afraid to initiate a romp between the sheets!
If you've been cheated on in a prior relationship, you might be on guard in your current relationship because of it. You don't want history to repeat itself! You might have missed the red flags in the past, which puts you on the lookout for red flags in the present.
Just because your past partner cheated on you doesn't mean your current partner will. Sometimes you need to cool it with the suspicion and just let yourself enjoy what you have in the relationship. Constantly suspecting your partner of cheating could, actually, lead your partner to cheat. Know that just because it happened before doesn't mean it has to happen again!
If your partner is super busy or traveling constantly for work, it might feel like they're pulling away, even when they're not. This physical distance can create an emotional distance. "Staying late at the office" is such a common excuse when someone is cheating that it's become cliche, but your partner could actually just have to stay late at the office.
Take a moment to check in with your partner. Your partner might be so busy, they don't even realize that you feel like there's a distance between you. Taking time to clear the air can help you reconnect with your partner and fill the distance.
10. REASON: You're Not Spending As Much Time Together
If you feel your partner pulling away, you have every right to worry. When you started the relationship, you used to spend all day together, but now you're lucky if you can get in a lunch. And if they aren't making time for you, who are they making time for? It might not always be another person. Just because you haven't been seeing your partner doesn't always mean they're cheating.
If it seems like your partner never has time for you, talk with your partner about it. Schedule a time to do something with just the two of you. In a relationship, the magic isn't "just there." You have to keep on putting the magic there in order for it to last!
If you're worried that your partner is cheating, guess what? They might actually be cheating. While it would be great if your fears were unfounded, there's a possibility that your suspicions are correct and your partner has someone on the side. Sometimes it's best to trust your gut.
Talk to your partner about what's going on, but have a plan in place before you do. Make sure that you're prepared to have the difficult conversation, and make sure that you're okay with whatever outcome happens. Talking about cheating isn't always easy, but sometimes it needs to be done.
However, don't jump to conclusions! Do you have an evidence that they're cheating other than your suspicions? Are there red flags? Don't accuse your partner of cheating. Do have an honest conversation about what's been bothering you.
When in doubt, talk to your partner about how you're feeling. Your parter should be able to listen to you. If they feel like your feelings are stupid, it might be time to find a new partner, cheating or not!