You've been living the single life for a while, dating here and there, but you're realizing now more than ever that you just want someone to come home to after a long day. Someone to share your successes and failures with. Someone to hold and someone to hold you (preferably that being the same person).
But you're not a scared little puppy. You're confident. You're finally at the point where you know who you are and what you want from life. You're willing to work hard and to wait until the right stuff comes along. You stand with your hands on your hips looking out into the distance for hours on end. That's how confident you are.
All that stuff that used to fill up your nights, those blind dates, the drunken flirting at the bar, none of that is fun or fulfilling anymore. You'd rather have a quiet night in, a home-cooked meal, a reasonably, classy number of drinks that don't involve Red Bull or anything bright blue. Now all you need is someone to share that with.
Not only do you not want to pick up strangers at a bar, you're finding you'd rather meet someone on a hike, or at the library, or somewhere else where like-minded, healthy people can soberly get to know a thing or two about each other. These are the kinds of people you want to start surrounding yourself with more and more ”” all that other stuff is starting to seem juvenile...and not the way to meet "the one."
You got a dog. Sure, they're cute and furry but, really, you wanted a companion, something to be responsible for, a presence to look forward to seeing every day for the foreseeable future. You're ready to be committed, full time, to a creature other than yourself. Plus, look at that face.
You used to see little kids running around and think, "Where are its parents?! What is that coming out of its nose?! How can something look sticky?!" But now, you might think, "Awwww," or "How cute!" or "I WANT SOME OF THOSE." Sure, that might seem scary at first, but this is just another way your insides are letting you know you want something a little more permanent. Okay, A LOT more permanent.
You're starting to think about buying a house. However far out of reach that dream may currently be, your fantasies have shifted from yachts and bachelor pads to yards and those bathtubs with the jets in them. The domestic life is calling for you, and you're answering its HOWWWWWWWWSE!
The stuff that college dreams were made of ”” house parties, clubs, flashing lights, wet floors, sweaty bodies, pounding "music" ”” are the stuff of adult nightmares. And, yes, you are an adult now. (Cry it out, we're here for ya.) The mere thought of taking a sip of punch from a bowl of brown, unidentifiable alcohols all sloshing together makes your stomach turn. And it should because, come on, that phase of your life was ridiculous.
There is now no shame associated with the phrase, "I'm going to order a pizza and watch Netflix." No sir, not even when referring to a Friday or Saturday night. The couch is your party and, oh, what a rager it is. You don't feel like you're missing out on the "fun" AT ALL (see above). All you need is someone to share the pizza with. (But, if you're honest, she's not getting any of your pizza. She'll have to order her own.)
The squalor you used to live in ”” pizza boxes everywhere, dirty laundry on the floor, dishes piled feet high in the sink ”” just doesn't cut it anymore. You find yourself being a...wait for it...responsible adult?! You even bought a vacuum?! This step clearly shows that you're taking care of yourself and your space, and you're ready to share it with another.
You have a dog. You're wanting kids. You're ready to have a family. As you're getting older, you're learning to appreciate what your own immediate family did for you and how important it is to have people in your life that you're close with. And you're ready to start creating your own.
You find yourself talking about the future...a lot. Okay, not space robots and radio glasses (I think that's what they look like??), but having a family and a house and whole-picture future! You're not afraid of it like you were in college (you've been in the "real world" for a few years now), so you're starting to talk about the future with a sense of excitement instead of one of dread. You're ready to settle down.
Something scary has happened. You once enjoyed getting presents more than anything in the world, but now, you're beginning to enjoy giving them. Without expecting anything in return (except maybe a plate of cookies). In fact, you get a real kick out of buying something for someone "just because." You want to cook dinner for someone because you care, let your friend vent to you because they need to, and you get total satisfaction from it. You're starting to put others' needs before your own.
The funds that used to get blown on video games, punny t-shirts and cases of beer are now being funneled into your savings account...or at least your savings jar. You're becoming more financially responsible, thinking big picture, future kind of stuff. Very adult and settle down-y of you.
And you're able to start saving those funds because, unlike several of your more immature friends, you have a full time job. With benefits. The stability might be a little terrifying, but it's mostly really nice. You don't have to eat instant Ramen anymore, and you can even afford to buy art for your walls (even if it's still movie posters). Working hard feels good, especially if it's in a field that you love.
The thought of marriage now excites you. Why anyone would get married used to be a total mystery to you. Who could commit to one person for eternity?! Why would you voluntarily strap on that old ball and chain? But now, you're kind of into it. You'd love to find that one person that totally gets you, that you can tell anything to, share everything with...forever.
In addition to your job, your visions of the future and your longing to get married is the fact that you no longer dwell on the past. Exes are exes, and you're way over pining and longing for something that wasn't right for you, anyway. Looking forward is proving to be full of bright visions...a happy family, a beautiful, tidy home, and the love of your life. Not too shabby.
You have found the person you can't live without, your one, true love, your lifelong companion in sickness and in health, forever and ever, your support system, your favorite face, the one who makes you laugh harder than anyone, the person you can't imagine your life without. It's totally right. You're confident, you're happy, you're having fantasies about having kids and cuddling on the couch with Netflix and your one and only on a Saturday night. It's time.