Ahh, sweet solitude. Sometimes, nothing sounds better, right? We’ve all been there, but part of being in your early 20s is living with other people and figuring out who the heck you mesh with (or don’t mesh with, for that matter) in living situations, and learning what kind of roommate you are.
And here we go with Unpopular Opinion #1: being in love when you’re young can feel like the greatest thing in the entire world, and sure, some people do end up marrying their high school sweethearts and living happily ever after, but unfortunately that isn’t the case for most of us. The fact of the matter is that you just don’t know who you are yet as a person and it’s likely your significant other doesn’t know who they are either!
Going along with the last slide, deciding to get married is the ultimate big decision in a relationship. Unfortunately, however, the odds are not in your favor for sticking together forever if you get married young: the highest divorce rates by far are among those aged 25-29. Statistically speaking, it may be better to hold off until you’re in your mid-late 20s to get engaged.
This one is probably a big fat “duh” for most of us, considering us Millennials can barely even afford to buy enough Top Ramen to eat every week, but if you are one of the lucky ones who can afford to buy a house, it might be prudent to hold off until you’re 100 percent sure that you want to stay in one place long-term and that you’re financially stable enough for an investment that big!
A lot of college students decide to jump right into graduate school after they finish undergrad, but sometimes it’s better to hold off a couple years so you can get some work and life experiences under your belt, and decide if that program is really what you want to do.
Not to mention, a lot of times “real-world” experiences look great on your resume.
We don’t want to say “YOLO,” but really...YOLO. You’re only young once and you’ve got plenty of fertile years left to start having kids! Kids kind of take up your whole life and sometimes you just gotta experience life for a while before you start poppin’ ‘em out.
This one probably seems a little counter-intuitive. I mean, hey, you’re 23 years old and you’ve gotta support yourself financially, right? The thing is that, again, you don’t really know who you are as a person yet. You might’ve wanted to become an accountant when you were an 18-year-old college freshman, but you might be a completely different person in a couple years and you may realize that making a lot of money isn’t the number one priority in your life!
Let’s face it: your early 20s are for being a dumbass. It’s totally okay to make some mistakes when you’re young as long as you learn from them and don’t repeat the same things. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself when you’re young...that’s what your mid-late 20s and on are for.
When you’re young you’ll probably have lots of friends who you’ll unfortunately lose touch with as you get a little older. It’s not personal, it’s just that everybody changes as they age and you’ll eventually figure out which friends will really stick by your side. And the ones who do stick by your side will be there through thick and thin.
It can seem really tempting to buy that plane ticket to Bora Bora for two weeks of relaxation, but again, you probably don’t quite have your career figured out in your early 20s and you probably also aren’t a guru of managing money yet. It’s fine to spend a little too much money every once in awhile, but big purchases like vacations to paradise are going to take a much bigger hit to your bank account that’ll be a lot harder to rally from.
We’re just going to echo the “YOLO” sentiment one more time: staying in on a Friday night watching Netflix and drinking wine with your cat is going to seem like a damn good idea on a regular basis after you’re out of your college years, but you’ve got your whole life for that...this is the time to get out there and try new things and meet new people.
Just stop right there, kids. You’re 22. You’re not old. Just because you’re a college grad and no longer in school doesn’t make you old. You’re literally the youngest person in the workforce and you still have the energy to go out and do things so take advantage of it, dammit.
This one is easier said than done, and obviously there’s a healthy level of stress, but think about it this way: You have your entire working life to be stressed out about work. Your early 20s are the time for figuring out what you’re good at and what you’ll really enjoy doing for the rest of your life. Stressing yourself out too much can just burn you out while you’re still young.
15. Thinking The Person You Are Now Is The Person You'll Be For The Rest Of Your Life
Nope, not even close. Even if you feel on top of the world and like your life is absolutely perfect, your world views will undoubtedly change as you gain more life experiences and meet more people who give you different perspectives.
Stay open-minded and you’ll eventually grow into the happiest adult-version of yourself!