It hits like a hurricane—usually the same time each month and always with a vengeance. It's like we haven't charted these waters before, but that doesn't mean it's downright awful every time. Let's not even get started on the physical pain and overall inconvenience.
Your reward for not conceiving a child is bleeding for up to seven days—meaning that we literally can't catch a break. Say goodbye to your white wardrobe and say hello discomfort for the foreseeable future. Forgot an emergency tampon in your purse? Godspeed.
Giving birth may be agonizing, but settling for monthly period cramps is a horrible consolation prize. Rest, Mydol, and even light exercise—most of us have tried all of the tricks to ease the pain. Anything to ease the dull aching of your pelvic area is worth a try.
Life doesn't stop just because you are bleeding out of your vagina for close to a week. Women can't put their career or family life on hold due to menstruation, and it is encouraged to go through life pretending it doesn't even happen. Some people are still uncomfortable—and even bothered—by the fact that women bleed once a month, and one woman learned this harsh reality in the most humiliating of ways.
One woman under the username "Snuffalo" decided to post about an uncomfortable—and rather ridiculous—event at work through the popular U.K. parenting website Mumsnet. This woman decided to discretely calm her period cramps at the privacy of her desk, but things went downhill quite fast. This story couldn't be more infuriating.
Snuffalo is used to the monthly pain that is her period. She is accustomed to experiencing pretty substantial cramping, so calling out of work is out of the question. She recently found herself really struggling to work through the pain while at her desk, so she came up with an inconspicuous solution.
When medication did nothing to ease the horrible pain, Snuffalo decided to take the hot water bottle out of her desk drawer to make her less miserable. "I fill the hot water bottle, nestle it in my lap, and I’m back to work," she wrote, and her condition began to improve. Unfortunately, her comfort was short-lived.
Snuffalo explains that her "sort-of supervisor" who she refers to as "Guy" came over to her desk to discuss something work-related. Upon seeing the hot water bottle he promptly asks what it is for, and Snuffalo replies that it is for "pain relief." Pretty self-explanatory, but Guy's reaction is anything but understanding.
Once Guy learns that she is using the hot water bottle to ease period cramps, his upbeat mood completely dissipates. "He looks confused and then literally horrified and then he walks away," Snuffalo stated. This is only the beginning of the office period-shaming she was about to experience.
It's not long before she gets a message on the company's communication program from the Human Resources department—as if menstruation is really a corporate issue. "Guy says you’re not well and should go home, everything OK," the message read. "I’m fine, this is sort of weird, he just looked a bit shocked that I had a hot water bottle, I’ve got cramps, you know how it is," Snuffalo responded. Apparently, they don't know how it is.
Snuffalo then receives a call from the head of HR, and she is asked to go to a conference room to discuss the matter at hand. The HR director's response to the hot water bottle? Snuffalo "shouldn’t disclose my medical problems to anyone who isn’t part of HR as it can make them uncomfortable." Wait, what?
12. Guy Is Obviously Really Unfamiliar With Female Anatomy
"Guy is extremely uncomfortable and it’s unprofessional," the HR director explained. They then suggested that Snuffalo go home if she is not feeling well and quickly ended the conference call. Guy is known to hold conferences while laying on the floor in front of everyone due to his back pain, but holding a hot water bottle discreetly on your lap at your desk is out of line.
"I’m not allowed to have a hot water bottle for my menstrual cramps? Am I right to be completely [expletive] furious," Snuffalo pleaded. The Internet was definitely on her side, and the many responses to the thread reveal that this response to a woman's period is absurd. Guy needs to get real.
Snuffalo was discreet and respectful of her coworkers by using the hot water bottle only in her personal desk space. Even if someone saw her easing her period cramps, what does it matter? The menstruation cycle is a natural part of every working woman's life, and it's time we stopped acting shamefully about this monthly cycle.
Being a woman can be tough, but it's nothing we can't handle. Excelling in a career, maintaining a home, and keeping a social life is no easy feat, and we can't like period cramps slow us down. Unstoppable AF—sorry, Guy.