With the rise of universal support for the LBGTQ community, more and more people are opening up about their own individual journeys. That doesn't mean that every transgender person's transition is exactly the same, which can welcome some unnecessary questions and assumptions.
No one really wants to publicly talk about their private parts, but for some reason, transgender individuals are constantly asked to answer for themselves. Unfortunately, some transitioning don't even have support from their friends or family — which can make the entire experience even more isolating. One man couldn't have more obstacles against his transitions, but that makes his journey even more remarkable.
Twenty-one-year-old Jaimie Wilson — raised on a farm in Michigan — appears to be a homegrown, handsome man. The youngest of four children, his family was extremely conservative growing up, and not particularly advocating for the LGBTQ community. Despite that, Wilson couldn't fight who he truly is.
At A Young Age He Knew He Was Definitely Different
Wilson was born female, but since the start of kindergarten, he knew something wasn't quite right. By the age of five, he was yearning to be a boy. He could hardly even dress or act like a tomboy without receiving backlash, so he decided to keep his true identity to himself.
"I decided I would never come out. It just wasn’t an option for me because I knew how my family would react. It was something I was just going to have to bury deep and deal with," Wilson admitted. It wasn't until 2015 — during his senior year of high school — that he decided to cut off his hair and come out to his family.
"I cut my long-flowing locks. I didn’t tell anyone I was doing it. I just came home that day with short hair and dressed in men’s clothing," he stated. Wilson's family did not take the news well. The tension and backlash from his family members were so unbearable that he moved in with a friend for the last part of his senior year.
"My family (mom, dad, and brothers) have progressively just gotten worse about my transition and we no longer have a relationship," he stated. Nonetheless, he began his transition in 2015. He also faced opposition outside his family circle, and people didn't believe he fit the bill of a transgender male.
He Didn't Fit The Description To The Outside World
"When I came out, people refused to believe I was a man because of how 'feminine' I presented for 18 years," he revealed. He pushed back the constant skepticism and started his transition with testosterone treatment. It's been a long road, but Wilson is finally where he wants to be two years later.
"I've lost my family and most of my friends since I started my transition but in the process, I've found out who really cares about me," Wilson stated. Even though he has found his home within the LGBTQ community, not everyone has been entirely supportive. Many believe he is trying too hard.
He's Even Received Criticism From The LGBT Community
Some believe that Wilson is attempting to appear "too masculine." Many have stated that he is "trying too hard to be like a cisgendered male," but Wilson does not like other people dictate who he should be. Wilson has learned that he has to do what is good for himself, no matter what the naysayers have to say.
Wilson recently relocated to South Florida to remove himself from the negativity that surrounded him. "I like sun and water and warm places, so moving to South Florida made sense," he stated. Although he can't count on his family, he does lean on one of his passions to help him through the tough times.
This 21-year-old is no stranger to picking up an instrument and mastering it. He started playing piano at the age of five and was drawn to the guitar since age 16. He has over 300,000 follows on his Instagram — @tboy61915 — where he shares his music and his inspiring message.
"Not everyone has to show 'signs' to be transgender. You don't have to pass a test to prove you're trans..and you sure as hell don't need ANYONE'S approval but your own," he stated in an Instagram post. Wilson is standing up for anyone in a situation similar to his, where they feel they can't embrace who they truly are.
He Hopes To Inspire Others To Be Their True Selves
"Being transgender, I have always struggled with trying to make others happy but I want to show that it’s okay to break free. I’m hoping with these words I can bring the community together and encourage others in similar situations to be true to themselves," Wilson stated. He's definitely become a strong advocate for others in the LGBT community around the world.
With LGBTQ community members speaking out — whether in the public eye or not — people can be themselves with confidence. We can never rid the world completely of judgment or hate, but speaking up and encouraging others to be comfortable in their own skin is a good start!