Maria Kang caused a storm of controversy when she posted this photo asking mothers everywhere what is their excuse for not looking as good as her. Don't you love it when people literally measure you with their own yardstick!? Don't you just want to tell them where to stick it?
2. Her Title Should Be 'Ms. Fat-Shamer International'
Sure, Ms. Kang is a beautiful woman. She has three pageant titles to prove it. But she implied that stressed-out, hard-working moms needed to measure up to her or they were nothing. And her attitude on that is simply what there should really be no excuses for!
3. Don't Blame Yo Momma For Your Fat-Shaming Self!
As is typically the case, in order to understand someone's thought processes we need to dig deeper. Her mother, an overweight diabetic, suffered a stroke, a heart attack and had a kidney transplant all before age 50! Yes, that is terrible and scary for sure. However, all that doesn't mean Maria has the right to fat-shame others, does it?
Even as Maria Kang began to apologize on social media to those moms upset with her, she still seemed to blame them. On the "influx" of responses she received, Maria wrote: "I'm sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way."
Well, we're sorry you don't know what an apology is. And it wasn't simply an image. Maria asked others "What's Your Excuse?" and that is what people responded to... a snooty question. Her non-apology simply didn't cut it.
Yes, Maria has a good point that it's easy for many moms to not make fitness a priority in their lives what with trying to juggle kids plus all of life's demands. This is very true and the truth does often hurt. But again, it doesn't excuse her attitude or her overly high expectations that everyone has to look like a beauty queen turned fitness model like her.
Then again, what she's trying to say doesn't excuse her attitude or her overly high expectations that everyone has to look like a beauty queen turned fitness model. We all have different bodies, and as long as we're healthy, no one should be telling us what to look like.
8. Successful Mom's 'I Don't Need An Excuse' Counterpoint...Good For Her!
Counter posts like this one thankfully turned up in response to Maria's projection of her own goals, values and, likely, insecurities, onto others. This mom shows us that it's OK that we all have different values and things we want to accomplish or be as a mom, as a woman and as a person.
9. Oh Sure Take the Fat-Shaming Bully's Side..But We Get What You Mean
Some responders to Maria Kang's photo caption question "What's Your Excuse?" focused on the point that many of us do make excuses and make fitness too low of a priority.
In an online letter to Maria, one person said: "Despite being horribly overweight (which I never was before having children), I wanted to say thank you for putting this picture out there because I’ve found it to be extremely inspirational. I think I’m able to appreciate this picture because I know you’ve done a lot of hard work to get where you are."
However, this same woman also said in her letter that: "...I know you’ve gotten a lot of grief regarding that picture and the line, “What’s your excuse.” I’m not going to lie; a few years ago this probably would’ve pissed me off… a lot..." So yeah, there's that.
10. Fat-Shaming Mom Gains Weight And Admits She Was Wrong!
Ms. "What's Your Excuse?" gained weight herself. She succumbed to the stress in her life a little when she and her husband separated and she gained 10 pounds. That happens sometimes when something has to give. It's called real life. The trick is to get yourself back...without preaching or shaming others.