Meeting people we met online in real life is nothing new these days. Something that was considered taboo a couple of years ago is now as normal as meeting someone at a bar. Still, the gamble when meeting someone from the online world is a risky one.
We’ve heard the stories. There are the funny ones like when people talk about their nightmarish blind dates. There have also been the scary ones, such as teen girls being unaware that they are about to meet men much older than them.
So, yes, things have gone bad. We’ve all had those times when we needed to get away from our date. And while for some it was because the person was a great old bore, for others it was because the person was giving off scary or weird vibes and making them feel unsafe.
This is the question you’ll find hanging in the women’s restroom of one particular restaurant. The question is written on a discreet sign hung on the wall of an Iberian Rooster restaurant in downtown St. Petersburg. It is a sign that could save you from a dangerous date.
You see, the people at this restaurant are aware of this new modern way of meeting people. They know that people on Tinder and Bumble can very well lie about anything they want to. The thing is, it’s one thing to lie about what you like to eat and quite another to lie about your age to a teenager.
Russel Andrade, the owner of the restaurant, spoke about the purpose of the place. “The goal for this place was to be a safe place where people can go on a romantic date,” he explained. “We don't want someone else to ruin a good a time.”
If the person starts to feel unsafe, all she has to do is order an angel shot. She can do so at the bar or by telling the server at the table. This is a code all the staff at the restaurant are aware of. Moreover, the staff takes the code very seriously, Andrade added.
The sign explains the three drinks the woman can choose from and what they mean. An angel shot neat means the bartender will escort the woman to her car. With ice means the bartender will call a taxi or an Uber for you. An angel shot with lime means the staff will call the police.
The owner of the restaurant, together with his staff, were inspired to put up this sign after a similar poster hung in an English bar went viral. It was the work of the Lincolnshire Rape Crisis. The center had created the poster campaign for women and it was hung in bars and restaurant bathrooms.
The poster encouraged women to seek the help of bartenders or the wait staff if they felt uncomfortable or in danger while on a date. They even had a code word. Women could ask for “Angela” to discreetly ask for help.
Andrade explains that no woman has ordered the angel shot just yet. “He hopes they never have to.” What we can hope is for other restaurants and bars to take Andrade’s example and put up similar signs.
Andrade is, however, surprised by the fact that so many people are talking about the sign. “I'm surprised to hear people are just talking about this. We didn't put the sign up for any attention. That sort of goes against the point.”