“I left a man at the altar. I was in my dress and getting ready to go to the chapel, when I realized I couldn't. I froze... I was fairly recently divorced and very young and scared. He eventually found a lovely woman and they are very happy together. I don't think either of us would have had that with each other.”
It looks like it all worked out in the end, right?
“Ten days before the wedding I found out he was sleeping with someone else. Took me two days to decide not to get married. Then over the next three weeks I discovered he was a sex addict and had been seeing other people for the entire nine years we were together. Got reeeeeaaal close to being stuck in that nightmare. Thankful every day that I didn't go through with it."
So, she didn't quite bail at the alter, but this jerk deserved to be left high and dry.
“I backed out a week before the wedding. Our interactions were strictly over phone…. I talked to him very irregularly until the end of February and then I just couldn't. I didn't have the courage to tell my folks so I just waited to see if he would back out. He didn't. That's when I told him that I wouldn't be marrying him. The invites had gone out and preparations were in full swing. I am glad I didn't go through with it. Though I could have handled it better I suppose.”
Yes, it was bad that she broke it off via the phone and kind of ghosted, but would you want to marry someone that you hardly knew?
“One of my best friends broke her engagement only a month before her wedding after he 'joked' about kicking her face in because he thought she hugged her step brother for too long at her mom's anniversary party. She dodged a huge bullet since he was arrested for assault a year later.”
I’m going to go ahead and say that you made the right choice, darling.
“All the arrangements were made, I had the dress and shoes and everything. We broke up because there were issues that weren't a big deal when we were dating that would be a huge thing with us married. Like, I wanted kids, he didn't. I'm religious, he isn't. We broke up, it was hard. We didn't talk for a couple months. But we came out of the ordeal on the other side as friends.”
Yes, before a certain age it's the little things. After a certain age, it's the big things that count.