What do you think a guy means when he says you guys should take a break? You’d hope that it would mean, “hey I need some time apart to regroup and reevaluate.” But could, “I think we should take a break” really be that cut and dry?
And when you hear them say that dreaded phrase, the obsession and fixation begins. How long do they need a break? Are they going to see other people on said “break”? Why would they want to take a break from me? Doesn’t he know that I’M A CATCH????? DAMMIT!!!!!
A group of guys on Reddit revealed what it actually means when they say they want to “take a break”. You may not like these answers, but it’s good to know the truth. Are you ready to read what they said?
“In my experience, and in others' experience, ‘let's take a break’ means ‘I've fallen out of love with you and want to break up with you but I think you'll cry or yell at me so I am going to sugarcoat it for you and keep your hopes up at least until you see me with another guy/girl.’” -/u/sourceofnightmares
This guy thinks that if could be one of these three things:
"I can't choose between the security of a long-term relationship and the possibilities of being single."
"This is over but I'm a coward whose method of dumping someone is to give them so little that they eventually dump me, and you've put up with total neglect for months, so now the only recourse I have is to effectively end the relationship in all but name, in the hopes that you will finally reach the end of your tether."
"Someone in particular has caught my eye but it's not a lock yet, so I'm manufacturing this wishy-washy arrangement to rationalize what I know deep down is just cheating on a trial basis."
“It’s essentially a breakup with a review schedule for a later date to discuss the possibility of renewal. I don't believe in the whole ‘we'll be apart but can't see other people’ thing. In today's dating environment, that's just going to lead to dishonesty. You go on a break to see if being single is better than what you have as a relationship. But personally if a girlfriend ever asked me to go on a break, I'd just end it right there. If I'm with you, it’s because I'm sure I want to be with you. If you're not sure if you want to be with me, I won't waste time on that.” –/u/ApolloRocketOfLove
Preach! You can’t get your cake and eat it too. And you are delicious as is whether he wants a slice or not.
Guys, why don’t you grow a pair and stop beating around the bush? If you don’t want to be with someone, break up with them. It’ll save you both a lot of heartache and confusion in the end. Ladies this applies to you too.