When someone you meet in real life makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, you have to act fast! You need to ask for their number or slip them yours right away. Time is ticking when you meet face-to-face because if they don’t make the first move, you can blink and poof! They are gone forever.
Or what if you guys made it to the next step and moved over to text? Their text will always be there, in your pocket, ready and waiting. Unless you accidentally got rid of it and then you can go back on the dating app and get it again. No stress at all.
Or maybe you message that cutie, then you move over to text. Things seem to be going well between the two of you and then your week gets insane. Your text chemistry fizzles out before you get to actually meet up and that is the end of that.
Let’s say you find yourself swiping and swiping and swiping one lonely Saturday night and you think, “What ever happened to that cutie with the tiger?” You go back into your messages and review them. You guys had a nice little banter going back and forth, can you give it another shot? And if so, how?
It’s not creepy at all. It’s actually a ballsy move and it’s putting you in a position of power. It was clear you guys had a nice little chemistry so now you get to make a bold move and see if something could be there. He will be flattered and if he isn’t then he’s an idiot.
There should be no shame in your dating game. If you are interested, message him. You literally have nothing to lose. Nothing! This is a person online that you have never seen face-to-face, and you never have to if things go south. if they are a dick, you could block them and never see them ever again. Just act like it’s no big deal and own it.
If they didn’t seem like a serial killer and seemed normal, reach out to them and keep it casual. Say something like, “Hey, you seem cool. Let’s meet up sometime.” or “Hey I know we both dropped off but let’s go for that drink sometime.” Just try to stay away from exclamation points and you should be fine.
Maybe you should just cut right to the chase. Send them your digits with a little note. Be short, sweet and to the point. If they are interested, they will reach out. If you don’t hear from them maybe they moved out of the country or something. Remember, low stakes. Very low stakes.
Just do whatever you want! If it feels right to send a little joke, send it. If you want to be more straight forward, then do it. If you want to give them a little poke and see if he will make the first move, that is fine too. Just do whatever you feel is best for you.
The bottom line is this: If they don’t like how you message them, then who cares?! They probably aren’t worth it to begin with. You want someone light and open and fun and accepting. Someone who is judgmental will never work out in the long run anyway