Let's take a moment to appreciate fathers with daughters. It's not an easy task raising a little girl. When you see someone do it well, it can leave you in ugly tears. But even with the best dads, it can get exceptionally awkward from time to time. Specifically, when it comes to taking them to the bathroom.
Recently, a mother posed this question to a message board. Her husband had been taking their daughter to the ladies' room, and she told him to stop doing that. She asked if she was being unreasonable, and the thread has since elicited over 500 responses.
Many users felt that she was correct. They said that it's an invasion of women's privacy for a man to enter their restroom. One user was shocked to hear he did this, saying, "I’ve never, ever seen a man in a ladies’ toilet and it’s not appropriate for them to be in there. They take their [daughters] in their toilets until they are old enough to go alone. You don’t see women taking boys into the men’s because that’s their correct toilet."
However, many other users thought the original poster was being unreasonable. They didn't see the issue with her husband taking their daughter into the female restroom. In fact, many thought it was the better option.
A commenter argued that a man with his daughter in a female restroom isn't a big deal, and he wouldn't see anything he isn't supposed to.
"I wouldn’t care if a man came into the ladies’ with his daughter. We have single cubicles and it’s not like you can see anyone on the toilet, unlike the men’s where the little girl will see men using the urinals."
"I still have memories of being taken into men’s loos as a child. They are horrible. But mostly the memories are sound and smell as [my father] had his hands over my eyes for the majority of the time."
One user not only brought up the extra privacy women have in their bathrooms, but also make the valid point that men's rooms aren't the nicest places for young girls.
"It wouldn’t bother me and it’s probably much nicer for her than seeing/smelling men weeing at the urinals.I do think we should have family toilets or something for these situations.However it’s not like women take their clothes off at the basins or anything."
They're not nice places at all, as one unfortunate woman in the thread can confirm.
"I understand the conflict, but I would rather a father in the ladies' individual cubicles than a four year-old girl being taken into the gents' with no idea what she might see. I've wandered into the gents' accidentally a couple of times. They're not nice places! Smelly, grubby..."
Some users thought they came up with a perfect solution for bringing a daughter into the men's room. Why not just have her use the handicap stall? Of course, this started a mini-debate of its own, as many thought this was an improper use of the facility.
So after 500 comments, what was the consensus? Well... there wasn't one. If you're a father out in public with your daughter and she needs to use the restroom, do your best to find a family bathroom. Otherwise, you're going to upset someone.