Don’t you wish that with every decision you faced, there was a sign to tell you what to do? You know, like an actual sign that pops down and says, “Your boyfriend sucks, dump him." Or “Your job is a dead end so you better quit." Life would be a lot easier.
So, because you don’t have a neon sign to light the way, you have to look for little ones that the universe sends to you. You need to pay attention to those little red flags that are telling you to make moves. You need to listen to your gut when you know something isn't right for you.
But how do you know that your job/relationship/friendcircle/diet/lifestyle isn’t working for you? Sure, some signs are pretty clear, but sometimes the signs are unexpected or come in different forms and can be more obscure. Here are some ways to help you figure out if your life is headed in the right direction.
Sometimes you just need to trust your first instinct. Your subconscious is smarter than you think! Next time you thinking about the future, pay attention to the first emotions that you feel about the decisions that you make. In the end, those first thoughts are usually right. These negative thoughts are sometimes for no rhyme and reason. These gut feelings could be the universe telling you to find another way.
Do you find that you are always exhausted? Like every day you are dragging your feet around and you can’t catch up on sleep? Is it almost impossible for you to get out of bed in the morning? You may not just be tired. This may be the universe telling you that you are depressed or miserable. Maybe it’s time to look at your life choices and see if you are happy and content or if it is time to make a change.
Have you been getting sick a lot? Well, being sad and too much stress can make you physically ill. Mind/ body, baby! Being sick and tired is a real thing and you need to eliminate whatever is making you feel just that. Maybe your body is telling you to move on and try something new?
Do you feel like you keep hitting road block after road block? Does it seem like everything you do, no matter how hard you try isn't working out? This may be a sign that your current state and the situation that you have gotten yourself into isn't right for you. These obstacles, whether they are big or small, may be the universe telling you to change things up.
Do you feel like you are wearing a coat of anxiety? Do you feel like you dread going into work, or dealing with your regular day to day? This overwhelming feeling of anxiety and dread following you around is a sign that something isn't right and there needs to be a shift.
Did you miss your train? Was there an accident that held you up? Were flight tickets all booked so you couldn't get out of town? Sometimes these accidents are happening for a reason and they aren't really accidents at all. You may not know why at the time, but this may be the universe trying to teach you or tell you something.
And maybe you aren't even aware that something is wrong and you can't see the signs. When in doubt, think about it like this: How often are you happy? Are you happy more than you are unhappy? Are you miserable way more than you are joyful? You get one chance at life, and while life can be hard, you should be living a life that fulfills you and makes you happy.
If you've seen the signs and you know what you’ve lost your spark and feel out of control, get back to the basics. As a kid what did you want to be? What were your passions? Sometimes as adults, we lose sight of what we really want because of societal pressures and maybe it’s time to revisit.
Just be careful. I’m not telling you that because you missed your train that should quit your job, live on your parents couch and become a zoologist just because you love animals. You need to make sure you can still pay your bills. After all, we are adults right? Take little step towards a new way of life. Then another and then another. You want to make sure you don’t leave one thing you don’t like for another thing that doesn't work.
So maybe you listened to the universe and decided to quit your hedge fund job and fulfill your dream of being a dolphin trainer. But then it was too much sun and you always smelled like fish and it wasn’t for you. This is not necessarily a sign to go back to what you are doing before. We will always have set backs in life and we will have road blocks here and there. In the end, find something that makes you happy. Change your course until you find what works for you. You will find it, just trust.