Figuring out what men are thinking is a headache. As women, we often ask ourselves if they meant something because they touched our hair or want something because of how they looked at us. We are the overcomplicated gender. We are the ones who will overthink every little thing.
So when it comes to figuring out what men are thinking, we can find ourselves asking whether the guy is too complicated or if he’s as is and we are the ones overcomplicating everything. Thankfully, there’s such a thing known as body language. Although nothing about this language is straightforward, it does give us a few clues into what a man could be thinking.
It seems that one of the most common body language cues that suggest a guy is into you is when he touches your shoulders. There’s nothing sexual about this body part, so it’s a way for the guy to show interest without being too bold. Take note, the next time a guy touches your shoulder and see what other signs he’s sending you.
Touching someone you like is a very intimate move. You always know when you touch someone you like for the first time because there’s that strong will to do so. It’s an intimacy like no other and often, it’s one of the things we remember from a relationship.
There are guys who may be too shy to even touch your shoulders. In that case, they may send you nonverbal signs to indicate that they are interested. Signs like making sure their clothes look alright and playing with their hair.
Basically, what the guy would be doing is making sure he looks good for you. You might not think he does or even care that he has showered but that’s what he would be trying to do. So, hey, at least he’s putting in some effort.
Another sign which shows he’s into you is when the guy puts his hand on your knee. Obviously, this is a bolder move since, well, it’s close to a popular area for men. If you like the guy, this could be the start of a relationship, if not, well, your mother must have taught you a couple of self-defense moves.
The knee is a clear sign the guy is into you. Moreover, men will also stare at you if they want you. Women, on the other hand, will look away when they’re interested in a guy because, well, we like being contradicting and making men’s lives as hard as possible.
Now look guys, looking directly at us is bold. For some women, it can be flattering and enough to get them interested. Just don’t stare at us like we’re eating the last piece of food on earth. No creepy guy vibes, please.
Guys are not the only ones using touch to show interest. It seems we do so too. The only difference is that when a guy touches us, we think he’s into us — mind, body, and everything but when we touch a guy, they are most likely to interpret it as a sexual interest.
Women’s body posture is also an indicator of how interested she is in a guy. Sitting straight and having her body positioned towards the guy are positive signs. Giving the guy barely an ear, however, is not a sign of real interest.
Obviously, these signs are not set in stone. A guy touching your shoulders could be doing so to stick a "kick me" sign on your back. Also, that guy touching your knee could be pointing out the fact that you missed a few hairs when you were shaving, as any good friend would.
The same goes for those signs you think women are sending you. A woman not looking directly at you could be doing so because she really isn’t interested in what you have to give. Also, a woman could be touchy out of habit, not because she’s into you.
Still, signs are always helpful. They could be the triggers that will lead you to have the best relationship of your life. Or the most embarrassing moment of your life…either way, it will be memorable.
Even if you fall flat on your face, go for it. Love and relationships require a bit of risk, a touch of boldness and an immunity to embarrassment. It’s better this than asking yourself "what if" for the rest of your life.