According to The American Psychological Association, about 40 to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce these days. Dating apps have enabled people to realize they have many romantic choices. Although there are many ways a relationship can end, there are a few signs that can point to the likelihood of a couple staying together.
It is important that you have the same concept of what constitutes love. One way to determine this is by finding out what kind of romantic movies your mate likes. If you like the dark wittiness of Annie Hall and your partner loves the sweet stickiness of The Notebook, you may not be right for each other.
No matter how much you have in common, there are times when you just want to be alone. Successful couples know when to give each other space and they don’t get paranoid or insecure when the other person wants some solitude. It is also important to maintain your own hobbies and interests, so you will always have something new to talk about with your mate.
They say that opposites attract, but when it comes to your morals and values all opposites may attract is trouble. Think about the problems that could arise if you are pro-choice and your mate is pro-life. If you are a card-carrying atheist do you really want to share your bed with someone who kneels by it to say their prayers at night?
Being able to laugh at oneself keeps a person humble and better able to deal with problems. If you and your partner find each other funny, you will be better able to navigate any tricky turns in your relationship. Having a similar sense of humor can increase intimacy; just think of all those private jokes the two of you will share.
Chances are the first thing that drew you to your mate was sexual attraction. Having good sex and wanting the same amount of sex can be critical to maintaining a lasting relationship. If you like to go to swingers' clubs three times a week and your mate is a member of the once-a-week-missionary-style club, you may end up going your separate ways.
Although it may not seem very romantic, money and how to spend it or save it can play a major role in whether you and your mate will make it in the long run. According to a recent article on Independent UK, "money problems are among the leading causes of divorce." It is important to observe the spending habits of anyone you are dating very carefully. If they too easily let go of funds, you may want to let go of them.
You consider yourselves soul mates and when you first fall in love, you believe that you will never need any other company besides one another. But after a while, if you begin to wear on each other’s nerves, you will need people to hang out with. Hanging out with friends will be more difficult if you can’t stand your mate's choices in companions.
It seems like a cliché, but sleeping with a mate’s best friend is far from obsolete. If you spend enough time with someone, attraction is always a possibility. If your mate seems too buddy-buddy with a friend of yours, you may want to run for the hills.
No matter how much you may love and respect each other, coupling with someone for the long term means getting to know their family. You will get along better with your betrothed if your feelings about each of their relatives matches their feelings about each of their relatives. If her brother is her closest friend it would behoove you to buddy it up with him. If his mother drives him crazy, you may not want to get too close to her.
Are you known as a potty mouth or do people look to you as their personal thesaurus? If you are a very articulate person with a large vocabulary, you would be well-advised to couple with someone who understands what you are saying. If you couple with someone with a limited vocabulary who cusses every third word, you may make them feel alienated and they may make you feel like a snob.
Are you constantly trying to figure out your mate’s email password? Do you make Rachel from The Girl on the Train look mentally stable? If you can’t trust your partner to be faithful, you may want to reconsider a long-term commitment.
Do you have a strong opinion about the latest version of the Nintendo Switch? Are you so upset about the casting of the latest Star Wars movie that you wrote a nasty blog post about it? If so, you may want to couple with someone who cares about these things just as much. Nothing is more annoying to a geek than someone who doesn’t care about their obsession and nothing is more annoying to a normal person than said obsession.
There is nothing worse than a mate who cooks food that you don’t like for dinner or plays music that you can’t stand. Knowing what someone hates can be as or more important than knowing what they like. So eat those Brussels sprouts on your own time