When a couple gets married, they want the day to be the happiest day of their life...not have the day ruined by an out-of-control guest. Believe it or not, how you behave could affect how the day goes for the couple. There are some behaviors and attitudes that can make an event go from a dream wedding into a nightmare. Fortunately, if you check yourself before you wreck yourself (and the wedding reception), things will go smoothly for everyone involved. Try not to do any of these annoying behaviors, and you'll get invited to celebrate the couple's anniversary!
The day of the wedding is the wrong day to find out where the wedding is taking place. And if you have questions, definitely don't ask the bride. She has a million other things to worry about. The fact that you can't remember if the wedding starts at 3:00 or 3:30 is the least of her concerns!
Being a "zilla" isn't just for brides. There's groomzillas and even guestzillas. When you're a guest at a wedding, the day isn't about you, so don't act that way. Don't make demands on the couple, the wedding planner, the catering staff and anyone else within eyeshot. Be respectful of the day and for the couple, and the wedding will truly be the happiest day of the couple's life.
Be on time for the wedding. Don't show up late and try to sneak in halfway through the "I do's." If you're in the wedding party, this rule applies to you even more. Nobody wants the wedding to start three hours late because the flower girl and her mom got stuck in "traffic."
If you want to take years off the bride's life, don't RSVP but show up anyways. Or RSVP, but don't show up. Or RSVP with a plus one, but show up with plus five. Or rip up your RSVP and throw it into the wind. Doing anything other than what you say you're going to do throws the wedding into chaos. Someone has to start scrambling for extra chairs, and that's never a good thing.
Kids are cute, but if you're going to bring one to the wedding, make sure they're well-behaved. Sure Little Jackson looks cute in his suit, but it's not so cute if he tears it off and goes streaking down the aisle. And if the wedding says, "no children," that means no children. Are you wondering if your child is going to be well-behaved or not? When in doubt, get a sitter.
Just because the couple has an official hashtag doesn't mean you need to tweet about the wedding every two seconds. Taking photos is fine, but when you pay attention to your Facebook feed about the wedding ceremony more than the actual wedding ceremony itself, you've got a problem. Keep your nose out of your phone and enjoy the happy day. You can relive the event on social media tomorrow!
The couple has spent a lot of effort and money planning every little detail of their wedding. So don't "surprise" them by doing something completely unplanned. The wedding surprise in Love Actually was romantic in the movies, but in real life, it would have thrown the bride, groom and poor wedding planner into tears. If you want to do something nice for the couple, get them a great gift instead.
You're not obligated to bring a gift to the wedding, however it is customary to do so. You don't have to purchase the $3,000 corkscrew on their registry, however even a little something says a lot. If you can't bring your gift to the wedding, mail it to the couple just before or just after the wedding.
You might have had three marriages that have all ended in messy divorces, but don't mention that at the wedding. This is time for the happy couple to celebrate their love, not time for you to bring out divorce statistics and talk about how relationships are meaningless. Let the couple enjoy their special day! Save the cynicism for later.
Weddings are notorious for not going as planned. Guaranteed, something is going to go wrong. Don't get upset that the ceremony started 20 minutes late because the bride's veil got stuck in a door. These things happen. So just relax and enjoy the ride!
There's a set of rules you should follow at a wedding. Everything from how you should greet the bride and groom to what fork you should use has been determined based off of centuries of tradition. If you're not sure how you should behave, pick up a copy of Emily Post.
Just because there's an open bar doesn't mean you should drink until they close. Have fun and don't be afraid to cut lose at the wedding! But don't have so much fun that they find you sleeping under a table in the morning.
Are the brides wearing teal dresses, but you think that they would have looked better in aqua? Do you think that rustic weddings are overdone? Keep those opinions to yourself. The bride and groom put in a lot of work planning the wedding. Enjoy the fruits of their labor, instead of finding faults with it!
The bride is the only person who gets to wear white. There are no exceptions to this rule. Did you find a super cute white dress on sale that you really, really want to wear? Save it for a day where nobody is getting married. We repeat, white is for the bride only.