According to relationship therapist Robert Weiss, men are heavily influenced by their friends. He has heard his clients say things like, “I’m not doing anything that most of my buddies don’t do. If you don’t believe me, ask them.”
It doesn't matter what your friends are doing, buddy. Be the man that your partner deserves.
Are you with someone who is insecure? Do they feel unattractive, old or not smart enough for you? Are they insecure about the amount of money they make? According to Weiss, cheating in men can be linked to a mid-life crisis and men will find another woman to make him feel more desirable and help boost him up when they are feeling down.
If your man has substance abuse issues or any other type of issue that makes him feel out of control, beware. Sometimes when someone has a hard time staying in control of their life, they will cheat as a way to keep some sort of control. Then you can unfortunately become the innocent bystander in the relationship.
Some men can be really immature and they may not know how important it is to take monogamy seriously. If a man lacks emotional maturity, he may not be able to stay faithful. Ladies, try to find a man who has matured so you know that you can trust him. Your heart will thank you.
Some men have unrealistic expectations. They expect their partner to bend over backwards for them. They should do everything for them, be at their beck and call 24/7, no matter what. Then when their needs aren't met, they look elsewhere. Some men have a hard time realizing that their partner has a life of their own.
Sometimes men don't have the male support in their life that they need. Because of this, they expect all of their social and emotional needs to be met by their partner. When she fails at that, and she will, he goes on to find it somewhere else.
Some men are just selfish. According to Weiss, these selfish men may have never even had any intentions to be in a monogamous relationship to begin with. They they find themselves in one, cheat and the lying and sneaking around isn't really a big deal to them. After all, they are their primary concern, not their partner.
Some men have a hard time thinking about consequences when an opportunity arises. They may have never even thought about cheating, and then there they are in a dangerous situation and bam! Their impulsive behavior got the best of them.
Some men think that a one-night-wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am is a better way to cheat. Saying, “It didn’t mean anything to me, I promise” doesn't make it any better for your partner. What if she did that to you!? Exactly.
Sometimes a couple doesn't want to admit when a relationship is on its way out. If a man if already over his current relationship, he may not have the guts to officially end it and will cheat instead. If he gets caught, then she will break up with him and he won't have to do the dirty work.
A man will often cheat if the relationship if nearing it's end. He is looking for the next girl that he can be in a dysfunctional relationship with. Many men don't want to end a relationship until they have someone waiting in the wings.
It is common for a man to cheat if he has unresolved childhood trauma from his past. Neglect, emotional abuse and physical abuse are all things that can cause a man to grow up with attachment and intimacy issues. These issues can make it hard for him to fully commit to one person and he may use cheating as a distraction from it all.
Some men cheat as a way to get revenge. If there is a fight that they are still not over, they can channel that anger right to another woman. Sometimes they won't even hide it from their partner and they may even use it as a weapon.