First things first, you guys should talk about why you are moving in together. Is it to save money? To take the next step? To afford a nicer place? Talk about why you are moving in together and make sure you are on the same page.
I know this may not seem like it’s a big deal, but it is. If your partner likes to stay up all night and you usually go for a run at 5am, this could get old really fast. Do you need him to keep it quiet after 11? Do you need to get changed in the other room that early in the morning? Just be upfront with what you need in the beginning and you guys should be okay.
If you guys have been together for a while so you probably know who is the messy one is. Before you move in, set some ground rules so you don’t wind up resenting one another for cleaning up after their mess. Remember, you are their partner; not their parent.
You may find that your partner always wants you there. You may need more space than them and that could potentially hurt their feelings when you guys move in together. It’s best to talk about space and what you need from one another before you seal the deal.
Look, you don’t need to make a sex schedule for the rest of your life, but it’s good to know what your partner needs. If they want to do it every night and they get home and late and you are up super early, how is that going to work? It’s good just to discuss your options so you could be sure to make time for sexcapades.
You may want to be near the beach and they may want a city life. You need to make sure you find a place that works for both of you. You may need to meet each other in the middle, so be prepared for that.
You love his parents, but do they plan to stay with you guys twice a month? Do you like to have your girlfriends over every week for Bachelorette night? Well, these are things that need to be discussed with your future roommate.
You live together, so you see each other every day. Because you are up each other’s butts it’s even more important to plan a date night each week. You have to keep things sexy and exciting because you are so much more than just roommates.
You may think that you guys can get an awesome place on the beach for $800 a month [editor's note: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!] so it’s good to know what their expectations are. You may be fine with paying more for a nicer place, and they may not care about having anything nice. Make sure you know what you are working with so you can figure out what is going to make both of you happy.
If they want kids and you don’t, you guys need to talk. Moving in is a big step so you need to make sure you guys are on the same page. And if you don’t see eye to eye, you don’t have to freak out and change your mind. It’s just good to get it all out there. You never know what the future could bring.
If you are taking this next step, it’s good to know what their plan is for their future. If they say that they’ve always wanted to move to Thailand and work on an elephant farm and you want to move to New York to be a Broadway actor, you guys need to talk.
You don’t want to jinx a good thing, but it’s good to have a plan just in case you break up. Are you both going to be on the lease? Are you the only one signing it? Who is paying for what furniture? These are things that should be considered just in case.