Here's a mental health tip that you should carry into the new year – start saying "no" more often. When you try to please everybody, you spread yourself too thin. Sometimes you just really can't attend every family meal, make five grocery store trips for your mom, and play bingo with your grandparents. Don't get me wrong, making time for family is important, but not when it's at the expense of your own mental wellbeing. So don't overcommit this holiday season. Say "no" a few more times and let yourself actually relax. That's what the holidays are for, after all, right?
Dear perfectionists, we love you. Really, we do. There's something beautiful about striving for perfection, but as we all know, life is not perfect...and neither are the holidays. Perfectionists tend to get overwhelmed during the holidays, simply because there is so much to do...and do perfectly! There's gift shopping, decorating, cookie baking, travel planning...the list goes on. But stressing over every little detail is the surest way to ruin your holidays, so cut yourself some slack and realize that sometimes the beauty of the holidays is that they're perfectly imperfect.
One surefire way to disappoint yourself this holiday season is to set the bar way too high. Yes, we all dream of a perfect holiday season, filled with sugar plums and cozy nights by the fire and a family that gets along the entire week, but that's just not reality. And hoping for your dream holidays will only result in disappointment. So don't put so much pressure on the holidays this year – just let them unfold naturally and take things as they come.
I know, I know. What buzzkill advice, right? But hear me out. Binging on sugary cookies, fudge, egg nog, and all of your other favorite holiday treats may be fun at the time, but just wait an hour or two...you won't be too happy with your decision to go for that fourth cookie, then. Overindulging on treats and heavy holiday foods can actually put a huge damper on your mood, as an unhealthy diet has actually been linked to depression. So enjoy a few cookies here and there, but try to maintain a mostly healthy diet during the holidays. Your body and your mind will thank you.
Yes, it's technically gift-giving season, but that doesn't mean you should expect big or thoughtful gifts from everyone in your life. Cut your co-workers, friends, and family some slack if they don't go all out to choose the perfect present for you. Focus more on spending time with your loved ones this holiday season, rather than spending money on them.
When you're in the giving mood, it's so easy to forget about credit limits and interest rates and other boring stuff that responsible adults have to remember. But once the holidays end and you look at your credit card statement, you definitely don't want to have that big "uh oh" moment. To avoid getting carried away and thinking, Charge all the things! this holiday season, create a specific holiday budget and use cash or debit to make purchases.
7. Don't Get Swept Up In The Materialism Of The Holidays
Who cares if your sister's boyfriend got her a more expensive present than your boyfriend got you? Why does it matter if you're the one who buys the priciest goods for the whole office? Focusing on the materialism of the holidays is a slippery slope, and it will ultimately lead to you being seriously unfulfilled.
If you prioritize everyone but yourself this holiday season, you're going to feel stressed and unappreciated. Now, we're not saying you should ditch your family and head to the bars with your friends, but you should pencil in some "you time" this holiday season. Whether that's convincing the family to go to the movie you want to see (for once!) or just stealing away for a quick nap, make sure to focus on you just as much as you focus on everyone else during the holidays.
It's impossible. You're not a superhero, nor are you Santa Claus. You're a regular human being who has a lot to juggle during the holidays. If you try to make everyone happy, there's always the chance that you'll make no one happy. So don't go to extreme lengths to try to accommodate everyone. It's not fair to you, and everyone will probably have a better holiday season if you just accept that you can't do everything.
Yes, you may be the king or queen of iCal, but that doesn't mean you need to bend over backwards to plan every event and activity for your friends and family this holiday season. Some planning can relieve stress and ensure that things go smoothly, but trying to plan every minute of every day can be an absolute nightmare. So either delegate some planning duties to someone else or just let it go. Sometimes having no plans at all can result in the most memorable holidays.